"Facts over Feelings"

Feelings Aren’t Always Facts — and That’s Okay

Ever had one of those days where your mind spins a story so convincing, you believe it without question? Maybe it sounds like, “I’m not good enough,” or “They must be mad at me,” or “Everything’s falling apart.” It feels real in the moment — heavy, consuming, and true. But here’s the thing: feelings aren’t always facts.

That’s not to say your emotions aren’t valid — they are. Every feeling we experience is a signal, a clue, a reflection of something going on inside us. But just because we feel something deeply doesn’t automatically make it reality.

Think about it like this: if you’re standing in a dark room and you feel like someone’s watching you, it might spike your anxiety. Your heart races. Your breath quickens. But once the lights turn on, you realize… there was nothing there. The feeling was real — the fear was real — but the threat wasn’t.

The same thing happens in our everyday lives. Our emotions can be shaped by stress, past experiences, insecurities, or just plain exhaustion. They can distort the way we see ourselves and the world around us. That’s why it’s important to pause and ask, “Is this true, or is this just how I feel right now?”

That little bit of space between emotion and action can change everything.

It doesn’t mean we ignore our feelings or push them aside. It means we honor them, but we don’t let them run the show. It means we give ourselves grace — to feel it all, but also to ground ourselves in truth.

So next time your feelings try to convince you of something harsh or hopeless, take a breath. Get curious. Talk it out. Write it down. And remember: emotions are powerful, but they don’t always get the final say.

You do!